I'll miss being 17. not a care in the world,
I'll miss being 17 doing whatever I want with no consequences,
I was happier then,
from what I can remember.
as long as I conveniently forget,
how hard the work was, or the workouts, or waking up at 6am.
I don't appreciate 20,
but now that I'm 20,
one day I'll miss being 20 too.
men will say anything
people are weird
they can know how much something means to you and still not care
men are not consciously evil but are inherently evil. They literally just do evil shit because that's what they know.
they don't try to be bad but they don't try to be good either
men don't know the bounds of making you uncomfortable and if they do they'll push them
they'll try to take advantage of you because you're young
planning shit is stressful
people only think about themselves
its a good rule of thumb to have a charger in the car
everybody doesn't care about they birthday and its not always a trauma thing they just don't
be able to make the changes that others see in you to be a better person (use discernment)
some people are just stubborn for stubbornness sake
you can be a nice person but not a good person
have some self-control
all you need is the people you love around you
try see everybody's side
as bad as things seem now, they do get better
you should only have to say something once
don't let people push your boundaries
it's okay to experiment
do not get under the influence with people when you first meet them
stand your ground
don't be around people that don't make you feel like yourself
sometimes you don't know what you want and that's cool
communicate at the cost of your pride
sometimes they deadass just don't care
not everyone will know what they have
everything that happens to you is not personal
don't spend your life waiting on the next thing
dropping/failing a class is not the end of the world
jealously is not cute
homecoming is for alum, spring fest is for current students
enjoy the moment
it's okay to get out of body every once in a while
not everyone will have the same experience in the same moment
mixing friend groups is like water and oil
you have to tell people about themselves
respect yourself enough to leave
some people are in love with their own misery
dating is a series of dates with multiple people
take control of your dating life
why not? wtf they gon do?
women are as bad as men sometimes
some women love male validation more than life itself
take some time to yourself
one on one time with a friend is very important
doing something even though you know it's bad or dumb is one of the strongest things you can do
you cannot conquer the concepts of power and control without them controlling you
a change of scenery is good
girls' nights are important
white people have no sense of community
things just work out for the best most of the time
my family missed me more than I thought
clubbing aint allat
you gotta respect others' journey and path
you are not always the same amount of friend as you see in someone else
I'd rather be done dirty by a fine man than an average one
never make a lame dude feel like he that dude
watch for mirroring
in the beginning he'll do anything to please you
you got to be just the right amount of cold and warm. don't be too warm too early
put your safety first
time apart is good if you let it be
if everyone thinks they are making a difference then they kind of are
the most unexpected things are the most rewarding
sometimes the best plans never come to fruition
I do my job for more money less work and less hassle than burger IM. This is corporate America
trauma allows you to mess up a good thing because things are "too good to be true".
you don't need to know and dissect everything
it's okay to just be
don't let others borrow money
the concept of selfishness is not real. its logical that everyone would be self-absorbed because that's who we spend the most time with and care for the most.
transparency is the best policy
advocacy for racial/political issues is good but you can't let it drain you or burn you out
I have never once regretted being bossy
it's no point in beating around the bush
don't get into a relationship to heal
all a dude wanna do is get next to you. all you gotta do is respond to him, let alone fuck him or something. he just wants something to tell his friends and how far he can push things
I love talking to people and learning their story... once I've learned I become uninterested.
maybe men was on to something the way they govern themselves
the most hurtful things need to be talked about the most
there are men and employers out there that will treat you what you're worth, deserve, and more
it only takes one time
if he doesn't want to cover you with kisses and swallow you whole, he doesn't like you for real
not every thought in your head is your own
showing effort is the simplest thing you can do
partying all the time is not healthy
a lot of the time you just realized they weren't raised the same
sometimes they didn't know the impact of what you said the first time
they always come back
your male friends will do some weird things behind some cooch
9/10 times it be the principle of the situation
there will be another one
never settle. they will show you why you shouldn't have
watch your surroundings
its gon work out
a lot of men dont want to be kept
splurge on self-hygiene
projection.
listen to your (higher) self
don't get a reading go to therapy
hes not nonchalant, he doesn't like you
be around people that want to be around you.
i dont play a life altering role in anyone's life but my own
let dat mango
relationships change and thats okay
planning ahead is good but dont do too much
take care of your body
spoil yourself with the little things
men really dont know how to boil water
so much goes unnoticed and unsaid
the older you get the younger you feel
i actually like my brother
karma/ the power of manifestion and words is real
give others even half the amount of grace you give yourself
good people can have bad qualities but that doesnt make them a bad person
you'll feel better if you get out of bed
people actually be delusional fr
even though we do, we shouldn't worry so much of what others have to say about it
the only thing you need to make it a good day is a good mindset
what you thought you wanted can change in the blink of an eye
its YOUR birthday. no one else's
spread love and receive love
in college, it's never a good idea to go back to your ex
dont be overly invested in your friends' affairs
sometimes money is not worth missing big events
a hair schedule is life saving
partying over and over gets boring
you dont always need to be fixed or working on yourself, just be
it sucks to get older
no going back only forward
a lot of times you dont know what you dont know
happy birthday to me!
1. don't let him call you unless a date has been planned
2. don't tell him too much about past relationships
3. don't give them a challenge (example: every dude before you did this or that) they will subconsciously try to win said challenge
4. no low effort dates (walks, "chillin", movie nights etc)
5. don't give him girlfriend privileges without a title
6. ALWAYS leave him wanting more
7. don't be a pen pal. allow the "getting to know you" phase to be discussed about in person
8. no last-minute shit
9. Thursday is date day. If it's bad you have the rest of the weekend to forget and you can use the work/school in the morning excuse, if its good you can schedule another date for the rest of the weekend.
10. try full heartedly and don't be afraid to put yourself out there regardless of the outcome
11. understand and recognize his perception of you when y'all met
12. do not be Ms. independent; let him provide for you.
13. never approach a man unless he's made it very clear that he's interested
14. don't be an experience. don't stay long enough for them to catch a vibe
15. limit access to yourself
16. don't block your own blessings
17. don't give up the cheat code. (I only have sex in relationships)
18. make him think it was his idea
19. There is no rule to follow for real
20. your sexual goal might cloud your moral goal
